Tree of Life Adoption Center is a proud sponsor of: 
Bulgarian Adoptive Families Reunion 2011
Hueston Woods, Cincinnati, OH

The first annual “Bulgarian Adoptive Families Reunion” was organized and brought to completion under the guidance of one of  TOL’s adoptive mom’s, Yvonne Villemure and her wonderful friend Viviane Martini (currently adopting with Hopscotch Agency ). The reunion was a success with 74 total attendees, 26 were Bulgarian adoptees!  There were brothers, sisters, moms, dads and even an aunt and a grandma. The committee reported that families traveled from Maryland, New York, Pennsylvania, Iowa, Tennessee, Kentucky, Illinois, Indiana, Michigan, Ohio, and California to enjoy the balmy 105 degrees weather a Hueston Woods Park in Cincinnati, OH.  The weather did not get in the way of families enjoying the event, all the park had to offer and to request this be an annual event.  Several of the families were past and present clients of TOL and it was wonderful for our TOL Bulgarian Coordinator, Kay Montes,  to witness how those children TOL has brought from Bulgaria over the years have grown and matured since arriving home with their new families. Kay attended the reunion with her family including their three Bulgarian born
children.   

The most wonderful element of this event was that the focus was on the family, not just the children who have been adopted from Bulgaria.  This event concentrated its efforts on exposing the children to the Bulgarian cultural as a family.  The reunion committee organized many children and adult activities for the entire family to participate in, such as bubbles, beads, crafts, writing Cyrillic letters, scavenger hunts, singing, dancing, making s’ mores, and sharing several meals together.  The Saturday night potluck brought several authentic Bulgarian dishes, and local Cincinnati Bulgarians taught the Horo dance, singing Bulgarian children’s  songs, gave a power point presentation about the history of Bulgaria, and taught the children Cyrillic lettering and how to write their names in Bulgarian. Many new friendships were made and a definite sense of pride in knowing that ‘those kids look like me’ could be heard throughout the weekend. Each child went home with a beautiful new T-shirt with a great Bulgarian map on the front and room for each child to add their own artistic skills.

Families in process to adopt from Bulgaria were able to connect with families who have brought children home, families recently home were able to connect with those home for a few years, Bulgarian children made connections with others that are their same age, families who have recently arrived home were able to get ideas from other families and share what they have learned. A rare insight was shared by an adult adoptee who told her story of adoption and her journey to Bulgaria as an adult, families had an environment to share their triumphs, victories and frustrations with other families. Most admirable
was  seeing   that all the children were given a safe environment in which to  play hard and make lifetime friendships.

 Our deep thanks to Yvonne and Viviane; the food was amazing, the activities well planned, the t-shirts are a wonderful reminder of a tremendous weekend together. Thanks for the memories and new friendships; photos to be shared in the near future. Next year’s Reunion location to be announced.

Wednesday, August 3, 2011 - Red Thread: An Adoptive Family Forum by Andrea Poe
 EASTON, Md, August 2, 2011—When I speak to people outside the adoption community, many are incredulous that UNICEF, the very organization that provides so much aid to children worldwide,is behind restricting inter-country adoption.  On the surface it just doesn’t make sense. To fully understand what is happening, why countries around the world – from Guatemala to Vietnam to Kyrgyzstan  -- are under enormous pressure to reinvent, reduce and, in some cases, end their inter-country adoption programs, you must understand the “why” behind the “what.”

When pressed for reasons why the U.S. Department of State (DoS) and UNICEF they actively engage in closing inter-country adoption programs, the very first response from both entities is that they are protecting children.  They say they
are working towards an adoption system that works against child trafficking.  That goal is laudable. The safety of children, of course, is paramount and must be the cornerstone of any adoption program.  I have yet to meet an adoptive family that believes otherwise.  The good news is we all agree.  So where’s the problem?

Ultimately UNICEF, and to a lesser extent the Department of State, are opposed to inter-country adoption, calling it a “last resort” for children.  Just what is the first resort?  UNICEF offers what appears to be a vague notion of social and economic justice in the world.  I share their enthusiasm for creating a more just world, and, in my experience, American families who adopt from overseas tend to be more engaged in the issues of economic justice in their children’s birth countries than others.  We are natural allies of UNICEF, so what’s going so wrong in relations between many adoptive parents and the
organization?

 The stumbling block is that unlike UNICEF adoptive parents do not believe that even a single child should be subjected to life as an orphan, serving in effect as collateral damage, as geopolitical solutions to world poverty are played out.  To us, it is patently unfair for children to be held hostage, condemned to life without a family, as the world works towards peace and
justice.

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Contributed by: Katherine Horn
Many times children do not know appropriate ways to manage their feelings or handle specific social situations.  When this happens undesired behaviors can occur and become routine.  One way to teach children what is expect is through using social stories.  As a school social worker I use books and social stories every week with children to help them learn these skills.  I have found that the books by Elizabeth Verdick and Martine Agassi to be well done and reinforce the behaviors that are expected.  Most of the books in this series are written for the toddler and preschool level.  They are great board books that state the expectation simply and are easy to go through.  Some of the books are also offered for elementary age children.  These books go more in depth into alternative behaviors and also give parental suggestions at the back.  The nice thing about the books is they repeat the specific behaviors such as "hands are not for hitting" and state more appropriate behaviors "hands are for high 5s".  These really are great books for kids.

List of books in the series:
Hands are not for Hitting 
Teeth are not for Biting
Feet are not for Kicking
Words are not for Hurting
Tails are not for Pulling
Germs are not for Sharing
Calm Down Time
Meal Time
Clean up Time
Pacifiers are not Forever
Diapers are not Forever
Sharing Time
On the Go Time (release date this fall)
Bed Time
Listening Time
Nap time
Bye Bye Time
Sharing Time